Or maybe she knows telling you would involve you in something that would put you in a terrible position. Maybe she has tried to tell you whatever it is and you knowingly or otherwise shut her down. This can be true even if you have always shared EVERYTHING without judgement in the past. If your friend is doing something that she doesn’t feel she can talk to you about, chances are she will pull away for fear of judgement. Then, of course, there are the less obvious reasons that a friendship may end. It may end abruptly or slowly fade away quietly to nothing, but that doesn’t make it less heart breaking. One of you may have been left feeling used, or just that time has passed, taking you in different directions, leaving you without much in common. Or it may cause the one who only wants platonic friendship to flee because the pressure to reciprocate or the guilt for not reciprocating is too great.Īnother obvious reason could be that, somewhere along the line, you have discovered that your values differ greatly to those of your friend, just making you incompatible. That may cause the one with unrequited feelings to flee for any number of surface reasons, usually none of which relate to the root cause. Of course, for me, the most obvious conclusion is that one person had secret (or not so secret as the case may be) feelings a little deeper than friendship, and could no longer tolerate the sense of longing that comes from maintaining a closeness that feels simultaneously too close and too far away. As they say, there really are 2 sides to every story. It’s not always what you think, and it’s not always even about you. So today I wanted to talk about it, and some of the reasons I have broken the heart of women I loved deeply. We hide it, because we are not supposed to feel it, and quietly ruminate over it in the deepest darkest corners of our minds and hearts. We don’t talk about this heart break nearly enough. So many women have broken my heart, but to play the victim would be inaccurate because regardless of who did what or who officially ended things, if we even know, at the end of the day, I have broken the heart of many women too. And because I need to take responsibility and accountability for breaking her heart too. I mean, the irony that the song was on the CD I made for an ex friend isn't lost on me! As I think back to it, the end was heart breaking, for us both! That’s a bold statement considering we haven’t spoken since it all went down, how would I even know what she was feeling? Because there was such love between us that it feels impossible that she wouldn’t be as heart broken as I was I guess. The album closes with the oddly triumphant “If I’m Insecure,” which features a skulking melody on the verses that bursts into the sunlight on the anthemic chorus, buttressed by church-like chords and choirly voices on the final chorus they’re almost completely drowned out by an insistently blipping high-pitched synth sound.When I think of all the heart break in my life, most of them have been from friendships if I am honest with you. Yet SZA softens his angular edges on the beautiful “Coming Back” the uncharacteristically sweet “Show Me” has a Frank Ocean-ic autotuned voice on the chorus and “Say What You Will,” premiered on Blake’s “Solo Piano” tour late in 2019, not only highlights his most beautiful chorus to date but also probably the greatest showcase of his wildly versatile voice, with an upper-range-stretching falsetto vamp at the end. “Lost Angel Nights” is a celestial ballad with gorgeous stacked harmonies whose unusually conventional, almost Christmas carol-like melody is offset by synth blurps and a trippy breakdown “Frozen” is a bizarre, deep-space collaboration with rappers JID and SwaVay and throughout there are plenty of the, audio squiggles, warps, loops, bloops and Bach-via-Phillip Glass-via-Daft Punk electronic patterns that pop up in all of his albums. But although the sunnier moments might go on for a bit longer, it’s very much a James Blake album and there’s no shortage of disruption. This may be due in part to the presence of songsmiths like SZA, Starrah, Ali Tamposi, Rick Nowels and Take a Daytrip (all of whom weigh in on a song or two), and Blake’s real-life partner Jameela Jamil cowrote and coproduced several songs. Despite its Sam Smith-esque title and occasionally grim lyrics (sample: “I know this feeling all too well/ Of being alive at your own funeral”), it’s less maudlin than his previous two and also features his sunniest melodies. On that note, “Friends Who Break Your Heart,” Blake’s fifth and latest, is both his most approachable and disruptive album yet.
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